Confessions of a newly single woman

It's not easy living life when your heart is broken. People say that no one dies from a broken heart but I will say, it sure makes life more difficult.  I had my relationship with my boyfriend of over a year recently end and the pain is very much present.  For reasons that were out of my control and looking back, I can only hope that he let me go because he really truly loved me and wants me to live a happy life even if it's without him. On some days, I wake up with him on my mind often wonder if he  still thinks of me, if he misses me or wonders if I'm doing well or not. These days are definitely my bad days.


Getting over a heartbreak and letting go is definitely a long, slow, and often painful process. First thing to admit is that I'm going to have good days and bad days. The hard part about this is actually admitting that I've lost him.  It pains me that I don't know if or when I will ever hear his voice again, or get a text message saying "hello."  I'm not holding my breath.

I do strongly recommend that if you know a woman who is going through a similar situation, please keep these things in mind next time you talk to them--

Please don't tell a recently newly single woman the following things:

"Don't worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea."

"Don't cry anymore.  Life goes on and now you have to live your life too."

"God has someone better planned for you. He was not the one."

I don't care about the other men out there. The truth is, it feels awful to be told these things.  One major way of releasing the sadness is through crying. I have to get him out of my mind and heart and this is a grieving process. Time heals all but don't remind me of it. I know this is going to take a long time. Just wishing I can get to the day when I can look back on this and smile and know that I'm a lot stronger for it. 

Instead, remind me of my strengths and focus on the positive things in life. Do you have any good jokes or stories to tell? 

What's helping me now...

• I'm learning to believe in myself again and that I will overcome this pain.  The hard part is actually believing it on my own. I don't like feeling sad and broken.  
• Music is a big distraction and with the right artists, their music gets me in a good mood.
• Friends who message me early in the mornings (at the start of my day) to wish me a great day.  It makes me feel great and special knowing that they took a few moments of their day to say hello and make me smile is always a warm and caring thing.
• A new exercise routine.  I'm waking up at 4:00 a.m. to go to the gym and work out.  I am starting to enjoy a good sweat in the morning.  If the rest of the day goes bad, at least I know that I did something for myself and I'm taking care of myself first.
• Prayer.  My relationship with God, the Virgin Mary, all the saints, and anyone willing to listen from the heavens, is becoming stronger on my end.  We normally call out to God in times of desperation and need but in this process, I'm learning to be grateful for the people and things I have in my life.

So, bottom line, this is definitely a day-by-day process. I'm hoping that I come out of this pain a lot stronger and wiser. I have a feeling that 2016 is my year of personal growth and finding a new found motivation.

Moving forward one step at a time, 
Mayra :)