Have you ever came across the thought of "I'll be happy when..." and you finish it off with things like, "when I win the lottery," or "losing those last 15 pounds?" I think it's extremely common, especially in women that we tend to punish ourselves for this way of thinking. I'll be honest, I'm guilty of this too! Looking back, I had adopted this way of thinking when I was a teenager.
At first, it started off as, "I'll be happy when I learn how to drive and have a car." So I learned how to drive in the summer of my 18th birthday and I got a new car that my parents had purchased for themselves but quickly realized that I needed a car to travel to and from school and work. Did it really bring me happiness? Not really. I had more responsibility. And the older I got, my standards became more strict and tougher to attain real happiness almost to the point to where it was unrealistic.
I sat down to write some affirmations to end this year (since there are only 4 months left of 2016) and I started to reflect on this very thought. Looking back, why did I place such conditions in order to feel happy or satisfied or worthy for being myself? What was the purpose? So I came up with this and the truth is, I really didn't know how to look at my life without placing a condition. I grew up thinking that I needed to accomplish something, to work for something, to earn something, in order to attain and validate my feelings. Why was I so hard on myself?
Well, I'm done with that! I've come to realize that being happy shouldn't come with a condition attached. It might be because I'm still riding my "happiness" train from this summer but I'm going to live a happy life for who I am and what I'm doing in the present moment. This reminds me of the episode of The Office when Andy Bernard said his famous line:
So, no more wondering when the good old days will arrive or when they've left, because I'm going to live the good old days, right now.
Thanks for reading,
Mayra :)
At first, it started off as, "I'll be happy when I learn how to drive and have a car." So I learned how to drive in the summer of my 18th birthday and I got a new car that my parents had purchased for themselves but quickly realized that I needed a car to travel to and from school and work. Did it really bring me happiness? Not really. I had more responsibility. And the older I got, my standards became more strict and tougher to attain real happiness almost to the point to where it was unrealistic.
I sat down to write some affirmations to end this year (since there are only 4 months left of 2016) and I started to reflect on this very thought. Looking back, why did I place such conditions in order to feel happy or satisfied or worthy for being myself? What was the purpose? So I came up with this and the truth is, I really didn't know how to look at my life without placing a condition. I grew up thinking that I needed to accomplish something, to work for something, to earn something, in order to attain and validate my feelings. Why was I so hard on myself?
Well, I'm done with that! I've come to realize that being happy shouldn't come with a condition attached. It might be because I'm still riding my "happiness" train from this summer but I'm going to live a happy life for who I am and what I'm doing in the present moment. This reminds me of the episode of The Office when Andy Bernard said his famous line:
So, no more wondering when the good old days will arrive or when they've left, because I'm going to live the good old days, right now.
Thanks for reading,
Mayra :)
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