Ms. Guided in Life

I seriously believe that every culture has some very interesting ways of welcoming the New Year.  I grew up in a Mexican household in the United States, so I got the best of both worlds. I do have to say, that we have some every fun and creative ways to welcome the New Year: 

I'm almost certain that everyone has had a "lollipop" moment in their lives.  Either you gave your lollipop away or you received one.   What am I talking about?  

We're in November now and I love this time of year!  Thanksgiving Day is a special holiday in itself because it is a time to reflect on what is important to you and the things you are most thankful for.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned in my 32 year old life so far, is to love myself the way I want others to love me.  For the most part, we go on about our lives in where the last person we think about is ourselves.  We are too busy taking care of everyone else and doing our jobs that we forget the most important part in our lives.  We only have this one life, one chance on this Earth, so why spend it where you are sad, miserable, frustrated, or living a life where you’re not truly yourself?

If you were my friend, you would know that I absolutely love to travel.  My only regret in this life is not traveling when I was a lot younger.  This Earth is so big and yet my goal is to see a lot of it before I perish from this world.  I spend a lot of time on Pinterest looking up fun and easy traveling tips and ways to save money when I travel here in the States and abroad.

I'm currently taking a Human Relations class under the Business Management courses this semester and I'm absolutely loving it!  Last night's lesson was on communication and conflict management.  The professor started the class with a very interesting social experiment on the importance of proper feedback.  If you're ever thinking of doing something like this with your colleagues or class, please do so.

I honestly don't think it's that hard to win someone's heart.  Sure, expensive things might be important to some people but the older I get, the more I've realized how important time, love, and attention are to me.

I've been thinking a lot lately about what it truly means to be an adult. How does one actually know that they have become an adult, exactly? I'm not referring to when someone turns 18 years old and one gains the right to vote, or when someone turns 21 and they are legally able to drink alcohol and gamble in Las Vegas. I'm talking about when you look at yourself as being mature, responsible, dependable, and trustworthy. The moment when you think to yourself, "I am an adult now and there's no turning back" and you can either embrace it or hate it.

I seriously thought I was done with dating and meeting new people at my age.  I thought I had found the one only to find out that we both had different plans and the relationship ended.  So, I'm back on the market and IT SUUUUUCKS! 

Have you ever came across the thought of "I'll be happy when..." and you finish it off with things like, "when I win the lottery," or "losing those last 15 pounds?"  I think it's extremely common, especially in women that we tend to punish ourselves for this way of thinking.  I'll be honest, I'm guilty of this too!  Looking back, I had adopted this way of thinking when I was a teenager.

It has been a very interesting summer so far.  Ever since I ditched my timeline of major life goals, I've been feeling free and at ease.  Not a lot of people get the privilege of getting the summer off from work and school, but besides the hot weather, the summer for me is a time to travel, learn new things, and recharge so I can tackle a new school year.

It's official! I'm obsessed with tiny houses. Why?  I have no idea.  Is it their compact organizational spaces? I have been drawn to how other people live in tiny spaces for a couple of months now.  At first, I thought I was just looking at genius sheds in people's backyards, transformed into a hideaway, such as a reading room, a home office, a man-cave, or a nice retreat from their main houses.  But no, those tiny houses got to me and I have to tell you why. 

I'm not going to lie to you, but my year didn't start out the way I had planned. Getting my heart broken and dealing with sadness and depression isn't my ideal way of living.  The months of February and March were filled with days of me trying to stay positive and pretending that I was fine. I had a week off from work in late March and I spent the whole week in bed with horrible body aches and fever.  That was it... my body was crying out for help and needed attention.  This was my first sign that I needed to take care of myself and stop kidding myself.

I'm sure you've heard of stories about other people having near death experiences they encounter when they find themselves in very dangerous situations.  I was watching a program as part of the Super Soul Sunday series of comedian Tracy Morgan talk about the accident that almost took his life about a year and half ago which happened on his drive home after doing a comedy show.  He talks about seeing his deceased father coming to him and telling him that he wasn't ready for him yet.  It made me think of my near death experience I had in high school. 

It's a little embarrassing to admit that I don't know how to swim.  I always had a fear of swimming pools and being in the actual ocean is something that don't really desire to do. Mostly because the beaches I've been to smell too much like fish or that yucky ocean smell that makes me want to gag. 

I started to get good at pretending and fooling myself that I was okay. But the more I pretended to be fine and happy, the angrier and depressed I became. Why am I so angry and get annoyed so easily? People are being nice to me and I feel like punching them in the throat. Okay, not to that extreme, but somewhere less than that. I tried to avoid hanging out with people at work.  I stayed in my office and would only come out when it was truly necessary to interact with them.  I figured, the less people are exposed to me while I'm feeling this way, the better it will be in the end.

We have become a society so dependent on technology that it almost seems impossible not to live a life where you don't use it.  I began to notice how much I depend on my iPhone 6 on a daily basis.  I use it for everything and it's a major life saver too! I don't get lost anymore, thanks to Google Maps. I capture memories using my camera, I communicate with my friends who are near and far via text messaging, I look up anything I want to know on my Google app, and stay informed on my friends and family using Facebook. We are living in a time where everything, and I mean EVERYTHING is only a few finger swipes away. 

Your Guideline for the First Two Months  First things first: I'm sorry it ended and you're going through a tough time but I'm sure that there is a good reason why it ended.  My best friend, Yoly once told me, "Things don't happen to you, they happen for you."  So, pull yourself together and check out this guideline I created.  What makes me qualified to write a post like this? I'm currently going through this stage and I've been keeping notes so I can share them with you.

I've never really felt old until I went from "Miss" to "Ma'am," and guess what?  It felt absolutely awful! Thanks to the girl who was helping me at the food court section of the local supermarket.  I was ordering an ice drink called a "raspado" and I heard the girl clearly call me "ma'am," not once, not twice, but three times! 

I've been feeling very lost lately.  Not knowing what to do or where to go.  I feel like I don't have much to keep me motivated anymore. 

Happy Mardi Gras to you!  I can't help but be amazed how quickly 2016 is flying by. Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday and the start of Lent.  Every year, I try to make sacrifices and sometimes, I accomplish my goals and other times, I fall a bit short. This year, I want to do something else. Instead of giving up something, why not gain something?  So I created a quick list of things I plan to gain during this time of reflection: 1. Make time for my family without my cellphone being a distraction 2. Say "yes" more to new experiences 3. Contact friends I haven't heard from in a long time   4. Make healthier food choices without giving up or  depriving myself of the foods I love and enjoy 5. Find new ways to move and have fun in the process  6. Read more and learn new things  7. Letting go of negative thoughts and feelings and instead focus on a more positive outlook I hope that by Easter, I will have gained a better insight of myself and the people aro...

I am very blessed to have three nephews and two nieces under the age of 7. When I look at them, I wonder how the world will be when they are older and what they are going to be when they grow up. I am hoping that their lives will be in many ways easier and they grow up to be kind, caring, and productive human beings.

Have you ever had those thinking sessions where you're stuck on a thought and you come back to it from time to time? There are times when I sit and think about different things regarding my future, or things on my to do list, but once in a while, I will get thoughts that I can't shake off.  Here is a small sample of six topics that enter my mind that I often wonder about:

I will admit that I've had very few epiphany moments in my life.  They usually come when I'm feeling sad, or upset with myself.  I am fortunate to experience an enlightenment moment this morning.  

It's not easy living life when your heart is broken. People say that no one dies from a broken heart but I will say, it sure makes life more difficult.  I had my relationship with my boyfriend of over a year recently end and the pain is very much present.  For reasons that were out of my control and looking back, I can only hope that he let me go because he really truly loved me and wants me to live a happy life even if it's without him. On some days, I wake up with him on my mind often wonder if he  still thinks of me, if he misses me or wonders if I'm doing well or not. These days are definitely my bad days.

Happy new year to you and yours! May 2016 bring you wonderful and amazing things and experiences your way.